2010.05.01: Walk 15 minutes at Pîrjol, walk 40 minutes in Neamț county, bicycle for 5 minutes

2010.05.02: Walk 15 minutes at Pîrjol

2010.05.03: M Obor – M Piața Sudului – walk 15 minutes – M Piața Sudului – M Universitate – walk 30 minutes – M Unirii – M Piața Sudului

2010.05.04: M Piața Sudului – M Unirii – M Titan – walk 30 minutes – M Titan – M Timpuri noi – walk 40 minutes – M Timpuri noi – M Unirii – M Universitate – walk 10 minutes – M Universitate – M Piața Sudului

2010.05.05: magnetic bycicle – 39min, 15.32km, 349kcal

2010.05.06: M Piața Sudului – M Aviatorilor – walk 100 minutes – M Victoriei – M Piața Sudului

2010.05.07: M Piața Sudului – M Aviatorilor – walk 50 minutes – by car 2 minutes – walk 45 minutes – M Aviatorilor – M Piața Sudului

2010.05.08: M Piața Sudului – M Aviatorilor – walk 60 minutes – M Aviatorilor – M Piața Sudului

2010.05.09: walk 10 minutes

2010.05.10: Jogging for 15 minutes
M Piața Sudului – M Victoriei – M Ștefan cel Mare – walk 30 minutes – M Ștefan cel Mare – M Victoriei – M Universitate – walk 30 minutes – M Universitate – M Piața Sudului

2010.05.11: No exercises

2010.05.12: Jogging for 15 minutes
M Piața Sudului – M Universitate – walk 5 minutes – M Universitate – M Piața Sudului

2010.05.13: Run for 15 minutes while doing this:
M Piața Sudului – M Aviatorilor – walk for 35 minutes – M Aviatorilor – M Piața Sudului

2010.05.14: M Piața Sudului – M Romană – walk for 10 minutes – M Romană – M Universitate – bodybuilding for 70 minutes – walk for 30 minutes – M Universitate – M Piața Sudului

2010.05.15: M Piața Sudului – M Universitate – walk for 10 minutes – M Universitate – M Piața Sudului

2010.05.16: M Piața Sudului – M Unirii – walk for 10 minutes – M Unirii – M Piața Sudului

2010.05.17: M Piața Sudului – M Victoriei – walk for 20 minutes – M Victoriei – M Unirii – M Piața Sudului

2010.05.18: No exercises

2010.05.19: M Piața Sudului – M Aviatorilor – walk & run for 35 minutes – M Aviatorilor – M Romană – walk for 10 minutes – M Romană – M Piața Sudului

2010.05.20: M Piața Sudului – M Unirii – M Titan – walk for 25 minutes – M Titan – M Unirii – M Piața Sudului
M Piața Sudului – M Unirii – M Timpuri Noi – walk for 20 minutes – M Timpuri Noi – M Unirii – M Piața Sudului

2010.05.21: M Piața Sudului – M Unirii – walk for 40 minutes – M Universitate – M Piața Sudului

2010.05.22: M Piața Sudului – M Unirii – walk for 15 minutes – M Unirii – M Piața Sudului

2010.05.23: walk for 20 minutes

2010.05.24: M Piața Sudului – M Unirii – M Eroilor – walk for 10 minutes – M Eroilor – M Unirii – walk & run for 60 minutes – M Unirii – M Piața Sudului

2010.05.25: M Piața Sudului – M Universitate – walk for 30 minutes – M Unirii – M Romană – walk for 15 minutes – M Romană – M Universitate – walk for 10 minutes – M Universitate – M Piața Sudului

2010.05.26: M Piața Sudului – M Universitate – walk for 40 minutes – M Unirii -  M Romană – walk for 15 minutes – M Romană – M Piața Sudului

2010.05.27: M Piața Sudului – M Unirii – walk for 30 minutes – tram home

2010.05.28: no exercises

2010.05.29: no exercises

2010.05.30: walk for 45 minutes

2010.05.31: no exercises

First of all, have a look at the picture below:

Basically, the most common thoughts when seeing two different patterns of thinking colliding are this: thinking that we (or the others) are great, thinking that we (or, again, the others) are bad, of being neutral on the whole thing.

As you see, there are three feelings we can have both about others, and about ourselves. Let’s analyze all six possibilities.

A. How do we feel about ourselves?
a. If we think that we are right, this is great for the psychology; Great ego, great pride, great feelings, yahoo! We’re over the world; One problem though: you may see you so good compared to others, that you may feel like crushing them; It’s also poor on developing oneself (why would you need to improve on perfection?); But it is a very optimistic way of seeing things, and it’s good for the spirit;
b. If we are indifferent to ourselves, we can’t improve; But we do have this option: not to care; What’s the advantage of this? We do have a pretty good ego, a stable way of seeing things, rather calm; All-in-all, not that bad;
c. Let’s say we have bad feelings about ourselves; This might lead to some problems like depression, or bad feelings on ourselves; It might also lead into progress, so all is not lost; I like this view a lot on the development issue, although it’s not that great on morale;

B. How do we feel about the others?
a. If we think that others are great, we have two options; First is to try and copy them, in order to improve ourselves to be as good as them; This is not just admiring them, it is also copying their behavior; You want to be like them; The other option you have is to just feel great about the others, and try to spend time with them in order to feel good as long as possible; But most of the time one feels the urge to improve by looking at his models;
b. We can be neutral about others; This will lead to no progress, but this will also lead to no bad thoughts, like envy; This is quite comforting zone;
c. We may think that the others are wrong; One would express that the others are wrong usually by gossiping, talking from behind (not saying things to one’s face); The alternative, being plain rude and telling people that they are wrong, is not much better either; Why is thinking about others as doing bad things faulty? I think there are plenty of reasons even from highly skilled persons in this world to acknowledge that there are persons better than themselves; So, most of all it’s illogically to think that there are only bad people in this world; Anyhow, seeing the bad things in other gives you bad mental processes and doesn’t really help you improve (what can you learn from others like that?);

How do these combine?
a. If you see others doing bad things and you doing good things, there’s no way you can improve, but you might have a very good personal feeling;
b. If you see no need for improvement in either you or others, and you also have no feelings on the good things in others, you will be calm, no problems, but you will still not improve;
c. Finally, if you see the bad things within you and the good things within others, you have room for improvement; Although this might be stressful, this is the method I like most.

Yes, there are more mixes than that. You can feel good about yourself on some things, and bad on others. You can be indifferent to others or care too much about someone else. You can think badly on two persons and great on other four. Life is more complex than that, I acknowledge that.

Most of the improvements in life come from seeing others doing great, or that we don’t do well. Usually this is solved by trying to imitate the world or trying to change ourselves.

If you see bad things in others and good things in yourself, your mood might be great, but your need for improvement will be lacking some resource.

But, all in all, we do have an option on how to live our lives, and even if we are not always right, even if others aren’t always right, we do need to acknowledge that:
a. a progress can be a great way to improve (see the good in others, the bad in you);
b. a happy feeling can exist if you see others doing bad things and you doing good things (but this will have no improvement);
c. you may also wish to be indifferent.

I hope I’ve cleared some ideas in you.

Some pictures at the event:

What insights did this event brought me?
1. God defines Himself: “I am who I am”; You can learn something out of this and say a similar thing: “I behave in the way in which I choose to behave”;
2. Life deserves to be lived;
3. A way in which to discover things about meanings of life:
a. Ask yourself “What would be the greatest choice right now?”
b. Ask “Do I follow my own path in life?”
c. Pose yourself this question: “Do I know what helps me?” (in this area there are multiple answers on three levels – to exist, to do, to have);
d. Ask “Do I recognize the signs of my path?”;
4. Out of any thing that goes into your life you can learn something, and that thing brings up new opportunities;
5. There are four levels in which you can perceive the world:
a. You; (blame others)
b. I; (it’s all me)
c. We; (it’s all us)
d. ”I am who I am” (spiritual level);
The farther away from “You”, the better;
6. Meditation on your workplace? Think about it!

What did you learn out of this?

1. I need quite a few money if I ever decide to go to Navodari
This may seem like a no-brainer, but for me it was not obvious that I needed quite a few money to go to Navodari (I now live in Bucharest, for almost 8 years). What will the money bring? Safety, a net which can catch me if I fall.

The alternative is simple: be so good as a professional, that I can’t possibly fail in anything I do in the online area from Navodari.

Both requirements are quite tricky. What’s important to know is that I need either a financial stability for a few years or be a great professional;

What are my actions for this?
a. Try to earn more money; This should be simple; All I have to do is continue doing what I do now that brings me money and, hopefully, to be able to save more money; No dead-line imposed, but a general objective;
b. Try to improve myself; This includes (and is not limited to) write better in English (the purpose of this blog), be a better professional at Search Engine Optimization (the purpose of GetSeoIdeas.com blog), be more productive (the goal at work); Having a portfolio of clients and improving my online networking skills should also help; I should be physically fit;

2. Focus on the positive things in life
I was talking to my friend (old mate, used to live in the same room, along with two other guys while a student in 2002-2003) about our common past. What I’ve noticed about the past:
a. Oh, those time were great; Lovely times, beautiful life, great friendships; (It’s also a sign that people tend to remember only good memories in the past – see this article: “We Don’t Remember the Bad Stuff So Well”);
b. During that time, I focused on a few bad things;
c. Focusing on those bad things didn’t bring any obvious advantage.

Come to think about it, I’ve had a great life, but I focused on some bad things (and this focus didn’t bring me value).

Now I looked at today’s life. There are two aspects:
a. Life;
b. Work.

I think I have a great life, and a wonderful work. Sure, there are things to improve, but the bottom line is that my life and job are very close to being perfect.

What will I win if I focus on the negative thing? Aside frustration, not too many things can be changed easily.

What will I win by focusing on the positive things? “Oh, what a beautiful life! Oh, what a beautiful job!”

There are some things to keep a close eye on (I seem a little brain-dead), but, all-in-all, it’s a pretty neat way of thinking.

What will my actions be on this?
a. Try to emphasis positive things in life;
b. Capture the moment; Smile, laugh if you have to, but, oh!, be so happy;
c. Only focus on negative things if you can make your life better.

PS: I’ll look at this blog post years from now and I’ll probably thank myself for good ideas. But why not start thanking myself right now?

On 13th of February I was reading “The Brothers Karamazov” (by Fyodor Dostoyevsky) and one thing hit me: addiction can’t be fought by trying to fulfill it. You just live with it, it never stop if you try to satisfy your desire.

I once had a feeling that solving an addiction is a simple thing: one just tries to solve it, forces things (imposes, sets a goal), and it goes away. And when addiction comes back, and you really want that thing, the solution is to try to solve that one moment (since you are already out of addiction). This will make things better (I thouhgt), and in the long term you won’t feel the urge anymore

Well, I was wrong. Addiction will always make you have an urge. (or at least me) The solution to solving the urge is simple: keep the urge. Don’t try to satisfy it. This is totally unlike me: I have a tendency to solve a problem by making things worse. I know, it feels bad, you really want that thing, but living with the urge and not satisfy it is the best thing to do.

So, as a personal observation to my urges, it seems I can’t solve an addiction by stepping into it.

I just felt like sharing this with the world.