It’s an important distinction: change, great things, huge accomplishments take a lot of things. But what I can do is small things. With love, as mother TERESA puts it.
I work in a project; it’s irrelevant which one; a brainstorming meeting is asked for; ideas are asked for; the meeting gets hold, I go there, we talk, and we talk; a follow-up is made; 40% of the ideas are written down; out of those, months after the meeting, 95% of them are ignored, close to nothing got done; now people want a new meeting, to talk more; this is what we need – more talk, more ideas;
Another project; we meet; we put up a plan; plan takes longer than expected; meet again; discuss, talk; “Name?” “Logo?” “Motto?”; we work on this; time passes; we talk more, we focus on these; time passes, things finally start to move, but then they’re dumped down; nobody cares anymore about anything; enthusiasm goes down; people would meet for hours for more than one month, but they’ll fail to implement pretty much anything; again, the solution for revival – more meetings;
a. What you do because you have to (you need to eat, thus you need money, thus you need to work, thus you need to have a job, thus you need to act in certain ways);
b. What you do just because you want to (decide to go out for a run, play a game);
OK, the above is not rocket science, but it’s pretty important on how decisive are the above things on emotions; only do things because you’re forced to, and you may not feel good; managing to do the things you love & have to do at the same time, you may feel better;
Also, diversity is key – you can’t eat chocolate all day and expect to feel great after this;
A final observation – the above are very likely seen in movies – you may notice what is a job and what is a pleasure; also, people seem to get a lot pleasure from childhood.
Yesterday I intentionally went to a selling presentation. Quite good, I interacted with about 5-10 salespersons, and learned from it.
What stroke me was the “Me too” approach. “Oh, you live in that area? How about that? Me too”; “Oh, you do this? How about that? A client of ours also does it”.
I actually, 100%, dislike it. In my opinion, it prevents saying things clear – “Hmm, I don’t know about this, this doesn’t look good to me”. Rather than this, a sales person would say “How about that? I know this guy (a lunatic, actually), who thinks like you; I sure don’t think so, but you and the lunatic would make a great team”.
Never ever tell someone you (gasps!) disagree with them; nooooooooo, tell them frankly – “however weird you are, I am like you, and if not, I sure know a wacko who is just like you”.
Or, perhaps, just ignore this selling mechanism and be, for once, you, and say “Yes, and that’s pretty much stupid; yes, I agree with you, you’re 100% wrong; yes, I agree, you’re weird”.
You can live your life in various ways; I am rather radical when I say that you must live it intense & keep things fast.
Are there counter examples? Praying should be slow; eating should be done slower; some sports require relaxation, rather than intense concentration; doing things fast can lead to mistakes.
But, overall, I consider that a fast & intense life is the way to go.
Everything I’ve lived until now can be summed up in “I’ve met some extraordinary people in my life, who make up my memories, who make up me“; you can see some of them here; the rest, all of it, is irrelevant, or at most relevant in building me, as a human who can better see what’s life made of; all the future, from now on, can only equal this thing; nothing can beat it; this is the whole life.
Yet another tip got from the training with Alexander FUHRMANN at incubator107: when holding a presentation, speak about your life; what moved you to get to become a professional in your niche? What personal experiences do you have? Why are you the person holding the presentation? How are you a good professional? Help others connect to you as a human being, instead of a person just presenting some facts.
If you don’t plan to, you don’t get smarter as you age – how can I prove this? In my opinion, most people in age are not necessarily smarter at 40 than they were at 20; sure, they are better at some things, but, overall they may not be smarter; or, to put it another way, not much smarter; I personally don’t see this in life – “People at 40 at smarter than people at 20″; sure, they are better with some skills, but not necessarily much smarter;
If you plan to, you can get smarter – how can I prove this? A lot of people that are smart now have gone through an intended process (read the things they planned, had the experiences they planned, went through life with a plan); +Continue Reading
One week ago I went to buy some eggs from the market. Went there, and looked for one criteria – the number on the stamp of the eggs tells the quality of the egg in Romania. The lady at the counter sees that I’m looking at the eggs and tells me – “Ahhh, don’t bother with the number, the eggs are all the same, they fake the stamps and put whatever number they want”.
What’s wrong with this picture?
If you badmouth your others (in this case, the competition), you badmouth yourself; don’t speak bad about others; ever; you do yourself a poor service;
It’s fine to speak bad about your own problems; “yes, I admit, I have a poor memory”; if you present solutions to this, it’s even better; “I tend to fix this by becoming organizing-maniac”;
How about having a critical eye? Yes, it’s fine to look with a critical eye on others, and on yourself; but it’s best, in my opinion, to be able to stop it; don’t go in someone else’s house and focus on the kitsch Romanian-style items; try to see other things also, not solely the bad things in others; if you can get out of the critical eye, you’re safe.
Be free. (I think this is the very first emoticon in a blog post on this blog; quite a change; it was about time)
I’m such a negative thinker, that whenever I look at negativism as a whole, I immediately switch back to thinking positive. I just see too many negative things about being negativistic. Weird, huh?
We often see this happening in life: we have a pattern of thinking, others have a different pattern of thinking. What happens when the two collide? How do we solve the difference? +Continue Reading
Saturday I went for a long talk with a friend of mine. Long time no see, a lot of thoughts to share with him. I’ve spent about two hours travelling in Bucharest and more four hours at his home talking with him. What I’ve learned from this talk? Find out below. +Continue Reading
(I think this is the very first emoticon in a blog post on this blog; quite a change; it was about time)
