FAQ

Actually, the Frequently Asked Questions page contains questions that at the time of writing have never been asked, but still it’s good to have them answered.

Contents
1. How can you contact me?
2. Why I’m writing this blog?
3. How do I, Olivian BREDA, relate to the professionals I speak about?
4. What are the faults on writing about a person?

1. How can you contact me?
Phone (or via Skype): you can call me at (+4) 0743-41.00.26 (I don’t answer my phone when in meetings, and I value sleeping a lot)
Email: filtruspam [on] gmail [dot] com (it’s an email address that automatically forwards emails to another email of mine, and keeps spam, so you should better write an email not looking as spam for Gmail; if anything else fails, try sending me the same email from a different email address from a different IP – like a different computer)

2. Why I’m writing this blog?
For personal branding, to help society, to improve my English, for the future prospect of money-earning via blog ads, for improved skills of blogging, and due to other minor reasons (if I wish to recommend to a person to use this browser or another, I just give them a link to a good article of mine, I don’t have to explain in details).

3. How do I, Olivian BREDA, relate to the professionals I speak about?
First of all, all humans have, to me, inherent value. Just because you’re a human on this Earth means you have the huge potential of changing the world for the better. One can’t but respect this potential. So, no matter how I relate to some persons, this does not imply I don’t value the rest.

Different than the rest of the world, I value a lot my best friends, my family, but most of all other people, who are neither best friends, nor family. I value them for either a thing they did and impressed me (mostly emotionally), or for the skills they have (skills can be personal skills or professional skills).

I talk on this blog only about the people that impressed me with their professional skills. My friends are just my friends, my family – I can’t pick them up. I won’t mention what impressed me emotionally on other persons – it’s of little use to anybody. But a professional, an expert in his field – this you can use yourself. Should I speak about this or not? I was once at a workshop and a very good Romanian psychologist encouraged me mention the well known persons I like on that workshop. So I take her (not-so-direct) advice and make it public.

This category of professionals I like is dived also, into: models in life and people with professional skills that are not models for me. It’s actually the only category that can be divided. I can’t have less-than-best friends, less-than-a-family-member, persons who did less impressive things. Perhaps I can have people with personal skills, but I don’t bother about that. Instead, I can have, and I think I should have, a list of persons with professional skills that is not impressive. To me those persons are not models in life. But wait! There are other persons on this planet that would want to see what’s a professional to me, even if that person is not fully, totally, completely, a model to me. A less-than-perfect person with professional skills is, still, a great professional even from my point of view. It’s just that I put a more rigorous filter on their actions. If one role model does a counter-intuitive thing, I accept this as a right thing to do more easily than from a non-model, but still a very good professional.

I specify in the blog posts which persons are role models to me in their field. So a business person is a role model in business, and a writer on moral principles is a role model in moral principles, and not in business. Also, if I don’t specify a person is a role model, this means (you ought to be totally surprised by now) that that person is not a role model.

4. What are the faults on writing about a person?
In “Romy and Michele’s High School Reunion” movie, Heather Mooney (Janeane Garofalo) sees a person she felt in love with while in high school: Sandy Frink (Alan Cumming). After this long period of not seeing him, Heather looks at Sandy and says disappointed and in an angry voice, referring to the high school period: “The hell was I thinking!”

Likewise, my writings is mostly done on things in my memory. Some are nicely kept, some are less-than-nicely. I now relate to a memory in my 10th grade in a way, I will relate to that memory different as time passes. Not only will the memory itself change, but my interpretation of the facts changes.

I think this is the most important thing on memories: they change, and the way I relate to them changes also.

On the positive side, even if I don’t view a person today like I did years and years ago, I still value that person very much. So, most of the values remain the same.