Ideas after a workshop
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After a recent workshop (by Fundatia Calea Victoriei), some notes. +Continue Reading
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The opposite of love is fear
It may look obvious – the opposite of fear is hatred. Yet, this evening, at a workshop, I found out a new idea:
The opposite of love is fear
Do I agree? Nicolae STEINHARDT treasures courage a lot. It’s also an important theme in “The Grey“. I never thought of the subject in such a way. It seemed, to me, as different subjects – love / hate / indifference on one part and fear / courage on a different part.
Yet, it seems, they are, somehow, opposites on the same line.
Interesting.
When you buy something, sometimes you just have to test
I noticed this – sometimes, when you buy something, you don’t know the result. Sure, it would be great never to fail, to always know something, to be 100% sure, to always take the right decision.
But, sometimes, me, you, everybody will take the wrong decision.
What I think changes is the way in which we tend to act upon failure:
- One may be sorry to have lost the opportunity, and hold a grudge.
- Another one may be happy that the person invested the loss in finding something new.
Sure, for most of the time, the price we pay is very big, we would prefer not to pay it. Yet, sometimes, you may earn more from something which you’ve actually lost.
The advice is not “buy everything”, but “learn something from everything you decide to buy”.
Doing the right thing
In Romania, we generally have:
- Romanians not caring about how to cross the street. I do this, although I have some other reasons than just being hurry (poor attention leads to more potential dangers, I consider, for crossing the street the right way).
- Romanians who don’t care about copyright. I do this also.
- In Romania, we tend to add Facebook friends more easily. “I know of some who have more than 1,000.” says this article. Well, I know quite a few people with more than 1,000 “friends” on Facebook. The thing is – should you apply Facebook’s rules or not? Should you be a LION on LinkedIn? How about the same on Facebook?
One thought after “Ambition to Meaning: Finding Your Life’s Purpose” (Video 2009)
I wrote here – Ce filme mi-au placut in mod deosebit? – Fii eficient! – the following:
Ambition to Meaning: Finding Your Life’s Purpose (Video 2009) – “Nu”-urile pentru film țin de gradul de credibilitate a mesajului. “Da”-ul pentru film vine din faptul că are o perspectivă interesantă asupra vieții, care te pune pe gânduri. Un film non-excepțional de excepție. Poate fi văzut cu subtitrare în română: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FtbaOOrDQvY
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1333015/
“Soyez réalistes, demandez l’impossible.” / “Be realistic, ask the impossible.” / “Fiţi realişti, cereţi imposibilul.”
I like this quote a lot:
“Soyez réalistes, demandez l’impossible.” / “Be realistic, ask the impossible.” / “Fiţi realişti, cereţi imposibilul.”
Ideas after a meeting with Cătălin ȘTEFĂNESCU (at incubator107)
Some ideas after mentor în incubator: Catalin Stefanescu (by incubator107.com):
- A movie: The Duellists (1977) – IMDb.
- It’s nice to read news from Germany while you go to Germany. Even though you may have access to the same information from another country, it may be wise to read the news from Germany while in Germany. And see TV shows (he referred to TV shows, I liked “news” better).
- Democracy is a continuous search. You need to be in a “dilemma”-state (perhaps similar to Omul fără dileme (1993) | Dilema Veche)
- There are two extremes, both of which are not good – “only a certain group of people is OK, the rest are irrelevant” versus “Everybody is OK, there are no bad things, everything is joy”. You should find an answer to this.
- New word: siaj – definitie | DEX online.
Thanks go to Cătălin ȘTEFĂNESCU.
“When they want you as an employee, you hold the power”
It may seem obvious, but you have to notice that in the initial part of the hiring process, an employee has a lot of power (if that employee is desirable to the employer). When the decision to leave the company (forced or willing) by the employee is taken, the employee has little to no power of negotiation.
Thus, it’s best to negotiate an exit package and exit conditions right from the initial phases of the interview, rather than leaving things to settle after you decide to quit the company.
Ask upfront – what will happen if the project fails? Via - Adrian CHIRA (LinkedIn, web site).
Three questions to put during a job interview
1. What are you looking for (what kind of employee)? What do you offer to that employee?
2. What are your objections for me starting the job at you?
3. When can I start?
Explanation:
- The first question makes it clear if you like the job and what does the employer expect from you.
- The second question puts things on the table, and helps you overcome the objections the employer might have.
- Finally, the last question shows courage and avoids the usual bluffing at interviews.
Quite nice. Via - Adrian CHIRA (LinkedIn, web site).
“You’re hungry”
I told you about a movie:
Until not too much time ago, I’d consider this logic fine:
- It’s OK to do your best to earn money, it’s a good test to survive, for both you (you survive with money) and others (others live with your help).
Surviving is good, right?
Yes it is. But in “The Grey” and this evening I acknowledged that money is not everything. Adrian CHIRA (LinkedIn, web site) said something about this care only for money, and, to some point, surviving: “You’re hungry” (not referring to me, as a general rule).
And it’s quite true. A lot of the career decisions are taken on the basis of whether you’re hungry or not. And it’s quite sad. I didn’t take any decisions on this, I’m not hungry, and I do a lot of things for things out of “hungriness”, but, still, very nice idea.
Later Edit: So, what’s the alternative? Actually, they’re two:
- Ignore being hungry, act as if you’re not. Follow the dream. Do what you want. Act your wishes.
- Stop being hungry – lower your needs, so that you’re not hungry anymore.
Thoughts after a workshop
After a workshop (2012.03.05 – Ce ne spun visele? | Şcoala vocaţională “A treia cafea”). +Continue Reading
Wishing to change
- If you want to change, do coaching (as a client).
- If you are sure you don’t want to change, don’t do coaching.
- If you don’t know for sure what you want, do a coaching session just for this thing.
Observing things vs. actually doing them
At a course with Cătălin ZAHARIA – inspirational model in structured communication, for me; and top speaker – Get a result now! we had to pick a role – client (stating a problem), coach (helping the client solve its problems), observer (noticing things, giving feed-back at the end).
For most of the time, I used to think that:
- The role of a client rules.
- The role of a coach, if he does his job well, is good.
- The role of an observer is not that great.
I’m starting to see some advantages in the ability to not be 100% focused on the problem, from the position of the observer.
The observer role is not that bad. Sometimes, just noticing thing is good enough.
The decisions you follow through are those which you take on your own
This ideas was brought to me at
(via – Professional Coaching si excelenta in viata)
And a different one, also:
Two ideas after a workshop
After a workshop (2012.03.14 – Ce ne spun visele? | Şcoala vocaţională “A treia cafea”) I remained with these two ideas. +Continue Reading
Notes after a workshop
Hello,
After a recent workshop (by Fundatia Calea Victoriei), some notes. +Continue Reading
The power of stories
I saw a movie recently:
OK, you get the picture (pun not intended), I liked it a lot. +Continue Reading
Changing the scenery
There is a study which claims that by changing rooms (or not), memory will be influenced:
- Sorry, I Left My Memory in the Other Room – ABC News
- Study: Entering Rooms Causes Memory Loss
- Environmental Boundaries Can Affect Memory | Psych Central News
Now, let’s look at vacations:
A longer vacation seems, by definition, better than a shorter one, and having lots of paid vacation time is a highly valued job perk. But when we recall an experience, and how it made us feel, it turns out that length isn’t terribly important.
(source – The best vacation ever – The Boston Globe; more on the subject – Duration neglect – Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia)
I think there is more to this than just memory and vacations, and I want to work more on having a different scenery in my life. Sure, there are limits to this, I won’t spend a fortune just to go to Japan, but changing scenery may work well. Even if it’s only for a small moment.
Be cool
At a recent conference (Savatie BAȘTOVOI, lansarea “Fuga spre cîmpul cu ciori” (2012.03.13, editura Cathisma și librăria Sophia) – Fii eficient!), I recorded this video (you may see the sequence).
The advice of Savatie BAȘTOVOI may be something like “be cool”, and “be happy”, and “don’t despair”.
Very important observation. Be cool & happy. Don’t despair.
The sellers from Romanian markets
I like going to local markets in Romania:
