It may seem counter-intuitive, but people get attached to the others they help, not to the ones which they help from.
OK, not a 100% fool proof rule, it may differ from person to person, from the kind of help given to the kind of help received, but it’s an idea to think about.
I thought of this – my generation didn’t have incubator107 when we were kids. We grew up in a world without incubator107 (I might add “and similar organizations”, but the question comes – “what other similar organizations?”).
But my initial thought was calmed – even today some people don’t have incubator107. 
The just must spread.
It just occurred to me – we actually know very few things about other people. We know what some people say in some contexts, we have some slight ideas about things like this. But we don’t know too many things about people. Just some basic things & facts.
Is it fine? Yes, I think the world is much more beautiful with hidden things. It’s good that we don’t know each other’s thoughts.
In the book Memoirs of a Geisha – by Arthur GOLDEN there is this passage:
“A number of bicyclists rang their bells in anger as they passed, but Mameha didn’t seem in the least concerned. I suppose she was so certain of her place in the world, she couldn’t imagine anyone being troubled by a little matter like her blocking traffic. She took her time, holding up one coin after another from her silk change purse until she’d paid the exact fare [...]“.
I like the sentence in bold a lot. If you have a mission in life, sometimes you do some damage, but it’s only minor. ”You can’t make an omelette without breaking eggs”. Quite nice.
I don’t think that if you show you like something / favor someone, you discriminate someone.
On the contrary, if you don’t show you like someone more than others, then you discriminate against that person.
KISS: say what you like.
There’s a joke I like +Continue Reading
From my observations, experience usually tends to shape a person in thinking prudently, safely, with attention and care, but also negatively. It takes a bit of an attention to avoid this.
(idea catched at “Albert Hall e o Reșița. Atât că e pe Tamisa” – Fii eficient!)
Situation – you are provided with a feed-back and told:
Paul KEWENE-HITE (Paul Kewene-Hite | LinkedIn) said, last night (“Entrepreneurship: Embracing Uncertainty” INSEAD MBA Master Class follow-up (photos), 2012.04.03, Radisson BLU Hotel – Get a result now!), a thing similar to this (approximate quote):
Most people have business cards with titles – “I’m a marketing manager”. Instead, they should focus on skills – “I can help you with creating your brand, I can design flyers, I have skills in product development”.
Paul KEWENE-HITE (Paul Kewene-Hite | LinkedIn) said, last night (“Entrepreneurship: Embracing Uncertainty” INSEAD MBA Master Class follow-up (photos), 2012.04.03, Radisson BLU Hotel – Get a result now!), a thing similar to this (approximate quote):
“Visibility, control and support” are the basic requirements for a successful roller-coaster business. More than this, the requirements can be applied to pretty much everything (life, relationships, other business models).
Paul KEWENE-HITE (Paul Kewene-Hite | LinkedIn) said, last night (“Entrepreneurship: Embracing Uncertainty” INSEAD MBA Master Class follow-up (photos), 2012.04.03, Radisson BLU Hotel – Get a result now!), a thing similar to this (approximate quote):
McDonald’s is in the real business, rather than solely on fast-food business.
Don’t you believe it?
Quite interesting was the fact that, sometimes, the business owners themselves don’t know the business they’re in.
Paul KEWENE-HITE (Paul Kewene-Hite | LinkedIn) said, last night (“Entrepreneurship: Embracing Uncertainty” INSEAD MBA Master Class follow-up (photos), 2012.04.03, Radisson BLU Hotel – Get a result now!), a thing similar to this (approximate quote):
During an interview, I ask “What is the lesson you’ve learned at …” or “Why did you make that particular decision?”
I think this is very important. Sure, there are accomplishments and failures, sure, there is stability in a job and sometimes people switch jobs too easily, but there is a key question which needs to be answered – “What made you make that decision?”. The reasoning will, probably, reveal much more than the feeling you get by looking at a CV.
Paul KEWENE-HITE (Paul Kewene-Hite | LinkedIn) said, last night (“Entrepreneurship: Embracing Uncertainty” INSEAD MBA Master Class follow-up (photos), 2012.04.03, Radisson BLU Hotel – Get a result now!), a thing similar to this (approximate quote):
When a potential employee comes to me, I expect him to ask me for references from past people I’ve worked with. And when I want to hire someone, I ask for his references and check them out.
I noticed that in Romania, the system goes pretty well, up until some point. So, a lot of people do ask for references, but only from one person. So, people ask “do you happen to know someone who is good at …?”. And they get an answer to that. Unfortunately, they don’t go beyond this.
What I also noticed is that people tend to focus on references so much, that they ignore previous results. They tend not to ask “how can you prove you’re good at X?” or “Show me past exceptional performances”, but, instead base their judgment on a single recommendation.
Paul KEWENE-HITE (Paul Kewene-Hite | LinkedIn) said, last night (“Entrepreneurship: Embracing Uncertainty” INSEAD MBA Master Class follow-up (photos), 2012.04.03, Radisson BLU Hotel – Get a result now!), a thing similar to this (approximate quote):
When you sign a contract, you need to be able to get out of the dream you made for yourself (“Oh, with the millions I’ll make, I’ll buy myself a Ferrari”), and think rationally.
He also said:
According to a study, a lot (~80%) of the car accidents happen for lack of attention prior to doing something.
What I think about this is that this can be applied to a lot of things. When you’re in “buying mode”, you may think irrationally. When you’re offered a price cut, you tend to act fast. When someone says something which upsets you, you feel the urge to reply in the heat of the moment. When you’re on the street and see an ice cream truck, you feel you really really need it.
Yet, perhaps, a better alternative would be to try to exit that state first.
Paul KEWENE-HITE (Paul Kewene-Hite | LinkedIn) said, last night (“Entrepreneurship: Embracing Uncertainty” INSEAD MBA Master Class follow-up (photos), 2012.04.03, Radisson BLU Hotel – Get a result now!), a thing similar to this (approximate quote):
When you don’t get an answer to a question, make it more specific.
He gave an example last night: instead of asking: “Do I have what it takes to be an entrepreneur”, ask “What does it take to succeed in marketing for X business?” or “What do I need to do to have sales of my product?”.
So, don’t ask “What’s wrong with me?” and even “What can I improve with what I do”, but ask “What could I do better in order to …”. Even more specific is “What is the next step I need to do in order to get better at …”?
The conclusion? Be specific when asking questions, in order to get specific (and, thus, good) answers.
Paul KEWENE-HITE (Paul Kewene-Hite | LinkedIn) said, last night (“Entrepreneurship: Embracing Uncertainty” INSEAD MBA Master Class follow-up (photos), 2012.04.03, Radisson BLU Hotel – Get a result now!), a thing similar to this (approximate quote):
You need to trust other people in business.
I think – not only this is true, but you need to trust other people in life, also.
Paul KEWENE-HITE gave an example last night of buying things – you need to risk something when you buy things, thus, trust other people. Even participating at a conference is a risk. Yet, you need to do it.
There is a lot of emphasis on the importance of non-verbal cues in communication:
James Borg states that human communication consists of 93 percent body language and paralinguistic cues, while only 7% of communication consists of words themselves; however, Albert Mehrabian, the researcher whose 1960s work is the source of these statistics, has stated that this is a misunderstanding of the findings (see Misinterpretation of Mehrabian’s rule). Others assert that “Research has suggested that between 60 and 70 percent of all meaning is derived from nonverbal behavior.” (source – Body language – Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia)
I tended to think that the communication was only referring to the main subject of the communication – so, if one was talking about totals in accounting, non-verbal would imply that if that person is enthusiastic, we get some feelings about it, and if the person is sad, we may get a different feeling.
To me, this was debatable – what can you learn from this, after all? It’s only a sum of money, no matter how you say it.
Nowadays, I think it does matter. What you can learn from non-verbal are things like ethics, principles, values. Sure, you can see basic things like positivity or empathy, but the moral values are even more important.
1. The new iPad will sell well.
2. Google+ will keep on being unknown.
3. Raspberry Pi will succeed.
4. Facebook will launch something good.
5. Europe will be much better.
At an event organized by Diverta – “De ce m-am întors în România?” (why did I return to Romania?), book launch, Sandra PRALONG said something similar to this: “Power is taken, not given”.
Captain Planet, a cartoon character has a key phrase:
Once his work is done, Captain Planet returns to the Earth, restoring the Planeteers’ powers. When he does this, Captain Planet reminds viewers of the message of the series with his catchphrase, “The Power Is Yours!” (source – Captain Planet and the Planeteers – Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia)
Well, an adaptation to the phrase would be “Dare to take your own power”. On the other hand, the receivers could say “The power is mine/ours!”, rather than “Thanks for the power, Captain Planet”.
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“Anita had not been in Polar Zoo in about 2 months. When she returned i had the chance to film her first meeting in a long time with the wolves she spent a long time socializing from 16th of May 2008. The video is recorded in Polar Zoo and any questions related to socializing process should be taken with them. For more information about the socialized wolf pack go to http://www.polarzoo.no“
